It has been four years since my arrival in this country I now call home. Now I can’t help but reflect on the numerous memories I have gained and all I have learned in this lovely piece of land. And all those reflections take me to the same subject, Dutch people.
Dutch people are well known for their straightforwardness, which can be and/or taken as rudeness. In most cases it is not meant to be rude, but just to say what’s on their minds. In any case, if you ever feel that what has been said comes out as rude, I encourage you to also be direct and say something about it; most times, you’ll realize Dutch people can be empathetic and receptive in such situations.
Planning is a must in Dutch culture. You will soon learn that they are rather well organized, very much thinking ahead, which is something to have in mind when trying to socialize with them. A criticism one might find is that there isn’t much space for spontaneity, but I would like to admit that being more organized ahead of time will do wonders in many aspects of one’s life. You may also find some Dutchies who can be very spontaneous, as I have.
The so famous expression ‘going Dutch’ is there for a reason
If you don’t know about Tikkie, you should be downloading this app as you read these words. The so famous expression ‘going Dutch’ is there for a reason. Some people might call it stinginess. I rather see it as a custom that shows the appreciation for independency, as well as ‘good fences make good neighbours’.
Rules are liked but we may not always follow them. Something I noticed in these years is that Dutch people really like rules, and dislike it when you don’t follow them. Moreover, I really admire the fact that when they don’t agree with certain rules there is no hesitation in questioning, opposing, and even improving those rules.
Not everyone is ready to connect on an emotional level. I really struggled with finding a way to connect emotionally with some Dutch people, but as I said before, once you approach the situation by speaking directly about it you’ll be surprised on how reflective and responsive they can be. Such connection is not always easy and straightforward, but once you get there it’s beautiful.
Dutch are not so well known for their food. However, I will strongly advise you to ask any parent or grandparent of your future Dutch friends to teach you how to prepare real homemade versions of the different types of stamppot, snert (pea soup), and greeuwen (field peas with bacon), as some of my favourites.
Last but not least, even though my Dutch is niet goed, I really appreciate unique words in their language. My favourite is ‘Uitwaaien’ which can be understood as the action of walking in the wind to clear one’s thoughts.
The Netherlands has and will continue to have a special place in my life. I hope the newcomers will experience as many great things as I have so far.
Willy Contreras-Avilés (34) is a second-year PhD candidate in Horticulture and Biochemistry of medicinal cannabis, from Panama. He likes to dance (perrear), cook Italian food, and swim.
